If you desire long-lasting relationship success, don’t forget to tell your partner these 10 essential things every day.
如果你渴望成功地使一段关系持久，别忘了每天告诉你的伴侣以下这10件重要的事。
1. “I miss you.”
1."我想你了."
“If conversation was the lyrics, laughter was the music, making time spent together a melody that could be replayed over and over without getting stale.” – Nicholas Sparks
“如果谈话是首抒情诗，笑声是音乐，让我们一起度过的时间化作旋律，重放一遍又一遍也不厌倦。–尼古拉斯”
Telling your partner you miss them through a simple text or email will make them feel needed, wanted, and appreciated. If you’re home with the kids while your partner is at work, send them a group family photo with a message like, “We can’t wait for you to get home!”
就算是在简短的短信或者邮件里向你的伴侣表达你的思念，也会让对方觉得被需要被在意被欣赏。当你的另一半还在工作，你回到家时，给他发张温馨的合家照，并告诉他，“我们等不及想拉你回家了！”
2. “How was your day?”
2.“你今天过得怎么样?"
“Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike.” – J.K. Rowling
“冷漠和忽视往往比坦率的憎恶更伤人。”—J.K.罗琳
Resist the temptation to go on a tirade about how terrible your day was as soon as you walk in the door. This isn’t to say you can’t rant and rave about a bad day, but doing so without consideration of your partner’s life is self-centered.
刚跨进家门时，抑制住想和你的伴侣长篇大论的讨论你的一天有多么糟糕的念头吧，这并不是说你不能发泄你对着糟糕的一天的怒火，但这样做没有考虑到你的伴侣的感受，生活是以自我为中心的。
3. “Do you remember that time we ______?”
3.“你还记得那一次我们______?"
“Falling in love and having a relationship are two different things.” – Keanu Reeves
“坠入爱河和保持长久的关系是两码事。”——基努里维斯
Relationships have a way of losing that magical “spark” as the months and years go by. Reminding your partner of your most cherished memories together—like your first vacation together, or that one time you got busted making out in a mall elevator—will help you remember why your relationship is so special in the first place.
保持长久稳定的关系同时也可能意味着，随着时间的流逝两人之间的魔力“火花”在慢慢消失。可以时常唤醒你的伴侣你们最珍贵的回忆，譬如你们的首次旅行，或者曾经某时你们在商场的电梯里亲热被人当场逮住了，这首先会帮助你们记起为何你们的关系是如此特殊。
4. “How can I help?”
4.“我能怎么帮忙？”
“I want to be in a relationship where you telling me you love me is just a ceremonious validation of what you already show me.” – Steve Maraboli
“我想和你在一起的时，你对我的爱不仅流于一声声确认似的我爱你，而在于你对我无微不至的关怀。”—史蒂夫.马拉波利
If you’ve ever panicked in the morning because you’re running late to work and can’t find your keys, you know there are few things more stressful than losing something at an inopportune time. Lighten your partner’s load by asking them how you can help when they appear stressed out or overburdened.
如果你曾经在早上由于上班迟到了或是找不到钥匙了而惊慌失措，你会知道没什么比在不适当的时间丢失了东西更让人抓狂了。当你的伴侣显得压力过大或不堪重负时，问问能做些什么来帮助他们减轻负担。
5. “What do you think?”
5."你怎么看？"
“When you don’t talk, there’s a lot of stuff that ends up not getting said.” – Catherine Gilbert Murdock
“你沉默不语，于是有很多东西，最终来不及表达。"–凯瑟琳·吉尔伯特默多克
Your relationship shouldn’t be a dictatorship, but rather a democracy. Ask your partner how they feel about all decisions big and small, from where to visit for summer vacation, to your children’s education.
你们之间的关系不能变成独裁主义也不能过于明主自由。生活中大大小小的决定，问问你另一半的意见，比如去哪里度过盛夏假期，或者关于孩子的教育问题。
6. “You’re so gorgeous/handsome/hot.”
6.”你是那么美/英俊/性感迷人"
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” – Leo Buscaglia
“我们经常低估抚摸、一个微笑、一句善语、一只倾听的耳朵、真诚的赞美、或极小的关心的力量，所有这些都可能让一个人的生活发生改变。”——利奥.巴斯卡利亚
If you don’t compliment your partner, how can you expect them to feel wanted or appreciated? Tell them all about their strong-suits by saying things like:
如果你不赞美你的伴侣，你又怎么能指望他们感觉被需要或是被重视？
Physical – “I love it when you smile, because you have the cutest dimples.”
身体上—“我爱看你笑起来的样子，因为你有最可爱的酒窝。”
Attitude – “I love how patient/thoughtful/kind/confident you are, because that makes me feel ____________..”
态度上—“你爱你是那样耐心/体贴/亲切/自信，因为那让我感觉____________”
Attire – “I can’t stop checking out your butt in those jeans” or “Hello, tiger… you look quite GQ in that suit today!”
打扮上—“你穿上这条牛仔裤简直让人移不开眼”或“嗨，帅哥，你今天穿这套西装真有型！”
7. “Let’s meet in the middle.”
7."我们各让一步吧."
“Compromise is the best and cheapest lawyer.” – Robert Louis Stevenson
“妥协是成本最低又最好的律师。”——罗伯特.路易斯.斯蒂文森
It’s easy to become convinced that you’re 100% right during a nasty fight, but please resist the urge to be stubborn. Thinking your partner is wrong about something isn’t an excuse to discount how they feel. Let go of your need to be right and work together as a team.
在两人间纷繁的争闹中很容易生出自信确信自己是百分百正确的那一方，但是请克制情绪别变得那么固执。想着你的伴侣在某些事情上是错误的并不能让你有借口去忽视他们感受。放开正确的必须是你这念头吧，你们一对可要配合起来。
8. “I’m sorry. You’re right.”
8.“我错了,你是对的。"
“Every couple has ups and downs, every couple argues, and that’s the thing—you’re a couple, and couples can’t function without trust.” – Nicholas Sparks
“每对夫妻之间感情总会有些起伏，都会有争吵，不过就是这样，你们是伴侣，如果不彼此信任就不能共度余生。”——尼可拉斯.斯巴克斯
Making a mistake is okay (within reason) as long as you’re humble enough to say you’re sorry and accept personal responsibility. Refusing to admit your mistakes, however, could turn what would have been a small squabble into an eternal dispute that destroys trust.
在合理范围内，犯个小错是没关系的，只要你谦逊的说声抱歉并且承担起个人的责任。但如果你拒绝承认错误，这可以把本来一个小的争吵变成一场持久的纠纷，破坏彼此间的信任。
9. “Please” and “Thank you”
9.“请"和"谢谢"
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough” – Oprah Winfrey
“对于你所拥有的心存感激，这样你会拥有更多。而如果你专注于那些你不曾拥有的，你永远都不会满足。”——奥普拉.温弗里
Tell me which one you’d rather hear from your partner:
告诉我哪句你想从你的伴侣口中听到：
Take the dog outside.
出去遛遛狗。
Hey honey, could you please take the dog outside? I’m tied up with the laundry right now, so I’d really appreciate it. Thanks!
嘿亲爱的，能请你去溜溜狗吗？我现在正忙着洗衣服，你要是去了我会非常感激的。谢谢了！
Big difference, am I right?
有非常大的差别，对吧？
10. “I love you.”
10.“我爱你。"
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” – Lao Tzu
“人爱者有力，爱人者勇。”——老子
No matter how long you’ve known a person, I can promise that those 3 words will never lose meaning.
无论你和你的伴侣相识有多久，我可以保证这三个字永远不会失去意义。
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