1.Acknowledge the big and the little things.
People want to be seen.They want their actions,attitudes,feelings,aspirations,etc.to be noticed and acknowledged.Become a person who notices.
洞察大小事情.
人们希望能够得到关注。他们希望他们的行动、态度、情绪、激情等都能够被人注意和洞察。做一个处处留心的人。
2.Give thanks and appreciation.
Thank somebody for something and they are more likely to do the same thing again or to do something else you can thank them for.Why? Because being thanked feels good.Tell them you appreciate it too.
表达感谢和感激。
表达感谢，对方便乐于再做同样的事情或者做令你感谢的其它事情。为什么？因为被人感激的感觉真好。告诉他们你很感激。
3.Give just to show appreciation for who they are.
Make a list of what you admire about your partner or another person. Now tell them you don't have to wait for a special occasion. Surprise that special person any time.
赞许他人的真性情。
列出你的伴侣或其它人让你钦佩的地方，然后告诉他们。你不必等到特别的场合才说。时时都给所爱的人一个惊喜。
4.Take an active interest.
Take a real interest in the things important to your special someone.Listen to him or her and have a conversation about hobbies,career etc. Learn something new about the topic. It will make them feel understood.
表达出积极的兴趣。
对爱人感到重要的事情表达出真正的兴趣。对他们的爱好和工作等都要倾听和交谈，从这些话题中了解些新事情。这么做会使他们觉得被理解。
5.Do special things just for them.
Find out what that special person likes. Do they like cards,flowers,foot rubs,special books or magazines? You may not like or want the same things.That's OK.Do something or give something they like.Make them feel special.
(See how many of these you can practice in one week with special people in your life and watch your relationships and intimacy grow.)
特意为他们做些事情。
用心了解爱人喜欢什么东西。他们喜欢的是卡片、花朵、鞋刷、特殊的书籍或是杂志？你可能不喜欢或不需要同样的东西，没关系。做些他们喜欢的事情或给他们一些喜欢的东西，让他们感觉很特别。
（给自己一周的时间试试以上方法，为你的一生之爱做些事情，看看你们的关系有没有进一步发展。） |
