JUST like a band or gang of superheroes needs members who have different talents and powers, a circle of friends should have exactly the same thing.
一个乐队或是复仇者联盟都是由不同才力的人构成，朋友圈的人亦是应该如此。
"It's important to have diversity and to be able to look for support from a variety of sources, " says clinical and coaching psychologist and founder of the The Positivity Institute, Dr. Suzy Green. "They also help us to keep broader perspective on life."
“能有一群各式各样且能对你有所帮助的朋友是很重要的，”临床教练心理学家，激励人机构（The Positivity Institute)的创始人，苏西·格林博士说到。“这些朋友也有助于我们开阔生活的眼界。”生活激励师同样是《快乐编码》的作者德莫尼克·贝托鲁奇（Domonique Bertolucci）对此也持赞同意见。
"You need different types of friends in the same way that you need food from different food groups. Different types of friends serve different purposes and nourish and enrich our lives in different ways."
“朋友需要多样性某种程度上就像是你需要食物的多样性。不同的朋友为着不同目的而生，他们会用不同的方式滋养丰富我们的生活。”
While many of us are lucky to count our real friends on one hand, there are certain types of people it’s good to have around. So, how many do you know?
虽然我们很幸运有几个知心朋友，但其实还有各样非常不错的人我们能与之为友。说到这边，你有多少这样不错的朋友呢？
THE FRIEND WHO'S COOLER THAN YOU
比你更潮的朋友
The world changes quickly and some people are just that little bit better at keeping up with what's hip than we are. Like those friends who know that NO ONE EVER says "hip" any more, for instance. We like to be around these people, because they're a beacon of cool. Cool things just flock to them. These are the people who help you to open your eyes, have a flow-on effect for introducing you to other cool people and help to unstick yourself from the rut that's all too easy to get bogged in. "These people enrich your life by exposing you to things that may have otherwise have passed you by, " says Bertolucci.
世界变化万千，但就有一帮人走在我们时尚的前头。就如“唯时尚独尊”的朋友。我们喜欢跟他们在一起，因为他们引领酷的潮流。对他们来说不是他们在追赶酷潮流，而是酷潮流在追赶他们。这些人会提升你的眼界，核裂变式将你介绍给其他潮友，同样也能让你从极易陷入的迂腐之中解放出来。“这些人让你的生活多姿多彩，因为他们让你有机会接触那些转瞬即逝的事物。”贝托鲁奇说到。
THE FRIEND WHO IS UP FOR ANYTHING
乐于挑战任何事的朋友
People are busy, we get it. But there's nothing more frustrating than having to reschedule your re-re-re-scheduled catch-up. Everyone needs a friend who you can call at the drop of a hat. A friend who says "hell yeah, I'm up for that". That's why it's good to have a mate who you don't need to issue a 28-day notice to just to meet for a frappuccino. It's refreshing (the friend, that is, not necessarily the frappuccino.) "This friend is the flexible, no frills friend who makes your life a breeze. Nothing is ever too hard and they're open to doing new things and changing plans at short notice, ” says Dr. Green. While Bertolucci agrees, "Their enthusiasm is contagious and you always have more fun when they are around."
人海“忙忙”，我们都知道这点。但是世上没有比需要不断不断不断调整朋友之约更令人沮丧之事了。人人都需要那些随时随地都能来的朋友。就是那些会说：“哇，我马上就到”。这就是这类朋友的好处，你不用提前28天预约只为了一起喝杯法布奇诺。这类朋友非常的干脆（对这些朋友来说，做什么都可以，不是非要一起和喝喝法布奇诺的。）“这种朋友很随和，没有任何臭架子，让你的生活也倍感轻松。他们的特点是天下无难事，乐于接受新鲜事物且不唯‘计划’是从，”格林博士说到。贝托鲁奇也补充到，“他们的热情是具有传染性的，在他们身边你总会有接二连三的欢乐。”
THE FRIEND WHO YOU ASPIRE TO BE
你仰慕的朋友
Oprah Winfrey once said: "Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher". And we all need to live life a little bit closer to Oprah. These people challenge you to be the best version of yourself. The only downside is that sometimes they can be infuriating and inspiring in equal measure. Dr. Green's advice: "This friend is only an important role model if they behave in ways that are authentic and genuine. They will see the best in you and give you important feedback on both your strengths and weaknesses."
奥普拉温福瑞曾经说过：“要跟那些不断提升你的朋友在一起”。同样我们也需要这样的
THE FRIEND WHO DOESNT KNOW ANY OF YOUR OTHER FRIENDS
生活。这些朋友会塑造你成为最好的自己。唯一缺憾就是他们鼓舞人的同时，也同样惹人厌。格林博士的建议是：“只有当这些人表现出真实且天才的一面时，才是你值得你效法的人。他们能看到你生命中的闪光点，对于你优势劣势都可以给予很重要的反馈。”
We like integration. We like killing two birds with one stone by catching up with several groups of friends at once. But there are times when you need to make an S.O.S call to a friend who is completely uninvolved and removed from a situation who can offer objective advice so it a bonus that your friendship exists without orbiting around your other ones. "There is a level of privacy to this friendship that doesn't exist in friendship circles, ” says Bertolucci. “It will be easier to share some of your hopes and dreams, fears and concerns knowing that they are not going to be discussed when you're not around.”
与你其他友人毫无交集的朋友
THE FRIEND WHO'S PAINFULLY HONEST
我们都喜欢整合。同样我们也喜欢一石二鸟----同时拥有几个朋友圈。但有时你迫于形势非得向未经此事的朋友求救而不能转向能给你提供实质性建议的朋友，其所带来的好处就是这个圈子的事不会被另一个圈子知道。“对这个不属于这些朋友圈的友谊就需要一定保密措施，”贝鲁托奇说到，“这样的话更易于你分享自己期望、梦想，恐惧和忧虑，因为你知道你不在时，自己这些东西不会被公开谈论。”
An honest friend will not always tell you what you want to hear, but they'll certainly tell you what you need to know like if he/she is really that into you. When you've got a crisis on your hands or need to make a quick decision they are your go-to. They're also there to keep you away from mixing paisleys and stripes. This type of friend has the strength of "feedback" and "is a pearl who will tell it to you straight when others won't or will sugarcoat things at the very least, " says Dr. Green. But she warns that this friend is someone who does it with good intentions and for your own benefit.
毫无隐瞒的朋友
THE FRIEND YOU’VE KNOWN LONGER THAN YOU’VE KNOWN YOURSELF
真诚的朋友不会一直说悦你耳根的话语，而是一定会讲那些你需要知道的话语，就仿佛他/她真正融入了你。当你手头很紧或是需要马上做一个决定时，你就可以找他们。同样他们也是让你从眼花缭乱的琐事中脱身的一群人。这类朋友有很好的“评价”能力，且他们如珍珠般真诚，对于你评价从不拐弯抹角，不像那些委婉或是那些不善搪塞之人。”格林博士说到。但她也郑重提到，这些朋友“说诚实话”都是带着好意且是为了你着想的。
History. Sometimes it works to your advantage, other times it doesn't. This is that friend who sees you out of the context of your job, your relationship, your other friends and your life as it is now. This is the friend who knew you when you had pimples and a bowl cut. There is something special about this person because they feel like home. It's nice and comforting to be around someone who has known you forever. "This is a friend you never have to put on a brave face for, ” says Bertolucci. “They know you better than you know yourself and accept you unconditionally.”
最知心的朋友
Can you name any other types of mates you have in your friendship toolbelt? Which one is most important to you? Leave your comments below.
往事，有时对你有利，有时却不然。这类熟知你往事的朋友就是这样，他们会跳出你如今的工作、人际关系、其他的朋友和生活的框架来看待你。这类朋友对你了如指掌，他们的特点就是会给你家人的感觉。跟这些对你如数家珍的人一起，你会感到很其乐融融。“在这些朋友面前你从不用伪装，”贝托鲁奇说到。“他们比你自己更了解你且总会无条件地接纳你。”
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