The New York Times recently published a piece in which they posit the question: Is this the end of courtship? Courtship, by their definition, means actually calling someone up on the phone and asking them out on a proper date. You know, like what our moms and dads used to do with each other. It’s the reason why we’re all here today in fact! Frankie called up Annette and asked her to go out for sodas after school! Then one soda led to another and all of a sudden Annette was on her back and about to be pregnant with you! Ah, romance…
>最近刊登了一篇文章，其中提到：求爱是不是已经不复存在了？追求（或者求爱），严格的讲就是打电话给某个人，然后找适当的时机约对方出去。这是我们老爸老妈那个年代通常的做法，事实上也是我们目前能够存在的最大功臣！Frankie打电话约Annette放学之后去喝点饮料。然后呢，一杯接一杯，突然Annette就到了床上而且要怀上你的孩子！矮油，浪漫这玩意啊。。。。
I’m 26-years-old. When my mother was my age, she had already given birth to a child and was pregnant with her second one. She’d also been married for a few years. Nothing illustrates a generational shift quite like comparing your life to your parents. In that sense, The New York Times has a point. The dating landscape has changed. Things aren’t what they once were. But wouldn’t it be weird if it had stayed the same? Everything else has changed so why would the way we date be any different?
我现在26岁。老妈在我这个年纪的时候，已经生下了一个孩子并且又怀上了一个，而且她结婚已经有个几年了。当拿你和父母的生活进行比较时，时代的变迁无比鲜明的体现出来。在这个意义上，>的文章是说明了一些问题的。约会的大环境已经变了，很多事情和以前已经不一样了。而且，如果什么事情都和以前一模一样的话是不是也有点怪怪的？其他的事情都已经变了约会的方式为什么不能呢？
True and false. The definition of a date has become a lot looser in the past few years. Like, you don’t have to buy me flowers or pay for dinner for me to know that you want to put your P in my A. But, honestly, thank god it’s not like that anymore! How awkward! How stuffy! How expensive! While it certainly feels nice to have an old school chivalrous moment, I find the antiquated definition of dating to be too suffocating. I much prefer to invite a dude to come with me to a friend’s party or over to my house to watch a movie. If he doesn’t understand that it’s a date, he will when I’m lunging at him by the end of the night!
真&假。在过去几年约会的意义已经变得很弱了。比如说，我知道你想和我滚床单，但是你不需要为了让我知道这一点给我买花或者请我吃饭。其实说实话，谢天谢地，幸亏不必那样了！太TM别扭了！太TM枯燥了！太TM贵了！的确，这种老套的约会有让人感觉愉悦的片刻，但还是这太让人窒息了。我宁愿叫个家伙去朋友那聚会或者来我家看场电影。如果那家伙都意识不到这是约会的话，我相信晚上结束我和他XXOO时他会懂的！
Hookup culture has taken the place of actual relationships.
混在一起已经取代了真正的恋爱。
Again, true and false. I think everyone can relate to sleeping with someone for a few months, unsure of what you are to each other, and then poof!! The “relationship” disappears overnight with no explanation. That is one thing I hate about the current dating culture. No one thinks they owe anyone an explanation. You meet someone, you decide to see each other for a bit, and when you’re over it, you can just quickly exit through the backdoor. I don’t care what year it is, that kind of behavior is just bad manners! Unfortunately, I do think all of this technology has given us severe penis and vagina ADD. We always think there could be someone better waiting along for us because, quite literally, the whole world is accessible through our fingertips. It wasn’t like that when our parents were dating at our age. If you found someone you could stand, you held on to them for dear life because meeting someone new wasn’t so easy.
仍然，真&假。我觉得任何人都会在不确定关系的情况下和他人同居几个月，然后就完蛋啦！一夜之间这段"关系"就不明不白的结束了。这是我痛恨现在这种约会文化的一点。没有人觉得自己欠对方一个解释。你遇见一个人然后决定试着见几次面，当你觉得要结束的时候你就可以很快的从"后门"闪掉了。不管是什么时代，这种行为太恶劣了！不幸的是，这种“高科技”伎俩并没有让我们性无能。我们总是认为有更好的人在等待着我们，因为那句话说的好嘛，“弹指间心无间”。我们的父母在我们这个年龄完全不是这样。如果你找到一个你还可以忍受的人，你这一生就会坚持到底因为再重新遇到合适的人机会是很小滴。
That being said, almost all of my friends are in relationships. Some of them may have been obtained through modern means (OKCupid: It’s real!) but they’re together and happy and loving each other like people have been doing since the dawn of time. You see, no matter what happens, people will always need to be loved. We will always yearn for companionship. It’s how we’re wired. So, even though the steps to landing a relationship may’ve changed, the end goal will always stay the same. Courtship is not over. It just got a fucked up facelift.
据说，几乎我所有的朋友都在谈恋爱。其中一些是通过现代的方式认识的（OK丘比特:千真万确！）但是他们在一起也和以前的人们一样快乐相爱。其实你看，不管发生什么人都是需要被爱的。我们渴望有人陪伴，这样我们才能够坚强。所以，也许怎样确定一段关系是有变化的，但最终目标永远不变。真爱永存，只是它被悲催地整容了。
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