作者: 爱尔兰UCD 赖小琪
今天和一个网上认识的朋友聊了几句, 却听到一个不幸的消息. 之前他已经告诉我, 他要回老家, 他的父亲病了. 本来我以为没什么大问题的, 毕竟人老了, 有病痛是在所难免的, 于是也没有想太多, 只是祝他一路顺风. 然而今天和他聊天, 我才发现原来他父亲得了尿毒症! 当时听到这个消息, 我的心突然一沉, 怔怔地望着电脑, 半晌没出声.
Today I chatted with one of my friends who told me a bad news. Before that, he had told me he had to go back to his hometown for his father fell ill. I had initially thought that there would be nothing serious because it was fairly common for an old man to catch illness. Therefore, I just wished him a smooth strip then. However, after talking with him today, I was told that his father came down with uremia! At hearing the news, I felt heart-stricken, staring at the computer screen speechless.
这个朋友的年纪比我小, 当时是在一个英语群里认识的. 可能他偶然之中进入我的空间, 发现我也是英语爱好者, 于是便加了我为好友. 其实平常也有不少陌生的网友加我, 我一般不怎么和他们聊. 然而这个朋友对英语的喜爱让我感到有点惊讶. 虽然他当时的基础不怎么好, 可是他也经常在空间上写英语文章, 而且从言谈之中, 我看得出他很有上进心. 他高中毕业后考不到好学校, 由于家里条件差, 所以就没有读书, 只身来了深圳工作. 由于没有学历, 他只能进工厂做苦力活. 后来辗转地换了几次工作, 最后在一个酒店当服务员. 然而不管他在哪里, 他都坚持学习英语, 而且我看得出他是在不断地进步的. 2010年的12月, 他刚考完BEC中级. 然而没有想到, 厄运就这样降临到他身上. 他的父亲得了尿毒症.
My friend is younger than me. We knew each other through an English QQ Group. He joined my QQ when he visited my zone by accident and learnt that I was also an English lover. Actually there are lots of net friends joining my QQ every day but I seldom talk with them. Nevertheless, this friend’s enthusiasm towards English was kind of going beyond my imagination. Though his foundation was not particularly good, he often wrote some English articles in his zone. Moreover, through talking with him, I could see that he was indeed an ambitious man. He graduated from senior middle school, and after that, without being admitted to a good university and due to poor family condition, he had to drop out and came to Shenzhen to work. Because of his low qualification, he had to enter the factory as an average worker. Later he altered his jobs for several times and finally became a waiter in a hotel. But no matter where he went, he persisted in learning English and I could see his continuous progress. In December, 2010, he participated in the BEC Vantage Exam. Never had I imagined that misfortune would befall on him. His father had uremia!
当我想到他的家庭境况, 我更加为他感到忧心. 他的哥哥不长进, 虽然我对他家了解不多, 可是从他的语气我看得出, 他哥哥根本不理他父母的生活, 在外面像个无业流氓一样. 而他虽然努力工作, 可是当一个酒店服务员能有多少钱呢? 我以前认识好几个朋友也是在深圳酒店当服务员的, 包吃包住一个月也就一千来块钱. 而稍微了解尿毒症这个病的朋友都知道, 这其实是一个绝症. 不仅如此, 它还需要相当大的一笔钱来治疗.
When I think of his family condition, I feel more anxious for him. His older brother is not motivated and I can learn from his statements that his brother leaves his parents alone and lives like a jobless hooligan. Hard as he worked as a waiter, he could only earn some one thousand RMB a month excluding accommodation provided. If you know something about uremia, you will know that it is indeed an incurable disease that needs a huge amount of money to cure.
尿毒症其实就是肾衰竭, 肾脏已经失去了排毒功能, 无法产生尿液. 治疗此病只有两种方法: 血液透析和换肾. 然而不管是哪种方法, 对病人及其家庭来讲, 都是灭顶之灾. 透析一次需耗时大概四个小时, 病人在透析过程中需要耗费大量的体力和元气, 非常痛苦. 病人往往在透析完以后会感到相当虚弱. 而且, 透析的费用也相当高, 每次大概要三四百块钱, 这对于一般的家庭是相当大的负担. 另一种方法换肾, 表面看来仿佛是治本之举, 然而却不见得比透析好多少. 首先要找到合适病人的肾源. 而现在中国医院里的肾源数量有限, 而要从有限的肾源里找到合适的肾更是难上加难. 所以一般只有病人的家人亲属才有较大的机会为病人提供合适的肾脏. 然而就算家人肯提供肾脏, 手术费也不少, 也需要15万左右. 而如果非亲属肾, 则需要高达20万元的手术费. 而这还不是故事的终结. 换肾成功以后, 病人需要终生服用抗排异药物, 这也是一笔巨大的费用. 但是, 出了这么多钱和精力, 患者也往往会在7年左右死亡. 很多病人就是因为巨额的医疗费用而最后放弃了治疗.
Uremia is actually kidney failure, which means the kidney loses the function of detoxification and cannot produce urine. To cure this disease, there are only two ways: hemodialysis and kidney transplant. But both ways mean catastrophe to the patient and his family. For dialysis, it needs about four hours at a time and would consume the patient’s huge amount of energies. It is extraordinarily painful that the patient will feel considerably weak afterwards. Worse still, the expense is also very high and normally costs about three to four hundred RMB for each time. It is undoubtedly a great burden to an average family. The other way is kidney transplant. It is seemingly to cure the disease fundamentally, but it is actually no better than hemodialysis. First of all, the patient has to found the right kidney. But it is known to all that hospitals have limited number of kidneys, making it more important to find the right kidney for the patient. Therefore, normally only the patient’s families have a greater chance to provide the right kidney for him. However, even if his family member would like to donate a kidney for him, the operation expense is also sky-high, about 150, 000 RMB. If the kidney comes from someone else instead of his family member, the operation will cost up to 200, 000 RMB. But that is still not the end of the story. After successful kidney transplant, the patient has to take anti-rejection drugs during the rest of his life, which also means a great amount of expense. Nonetheless, even if everything goes well after the operation, the patient will die in about 7 years. Many patients finally give up medical treatment due to huge expenses.
想到这些, 我不禁为这位朋友感到神伤. 我不禁在内心呐喊: “为什么上苍要如此残忍地对待一个本来已经贫困凄凉的家庭?” 这位朋友曾经多次和我提过, 他很想从事外贸类的工作, 这也是为什么他这么努力学习外语的原因. 而正是他坚持不懈地学习, 他现在的英语水平已经比很多大学生还要好. 而正在他为他的未来努力拼搏时, 上天和他开了一个大玩笑. 他不得不暂停工作和学业, 回家照顾他生病的父亲. 而无边的医疗费用更是让他一筹莫展, 终日愁眉苦脸. 我很想帮他, 可是我不知道该怎么帮. 钱? 要是我在深圳或许还是可以给他几百一千的, 但是现在我在国外读书, 本身家庭的经济负担已经很重了, 我也过着节衣缩食的生活, 所以我也最多只能叫深圳的一些朋友代我捐些钱给他. 这也是我感到无比苦恼的地方. 虽然我和他的交情谈不上深, 但是大家毕竟有缘认识, 而且看到他家的境况如此凄惨, 我真的忍不住感到痛心. 而现在, 我除了几句苍白无力的安慰之语以外, 我什么也做不了.
Thinking of all these, I could not help feeling concerned for my friend. I could not help asking the Heaven in heart: “Why would you treat a poor family so cruelly?” My friend told me many times in the past that he would like to engage in international business. That is the reason why he keeps studying English so arduously. Due to his unyielding efforts, his English level is higher than that of many college students. However, while he is on the way striving for his future, the Heaven makes a big joke on him. Now he has to stop work and study and goes back home to take care of his dad. The endless amount of medical fees makes the situation even worse, leaving him a big headache. I am eager to help him, but I really do not know how to help. Money? If I were in Shenzhen, I would give him about one thousand RMB. But now I am studying abroad and become a big burden to my family. I am living a frugal life. So I can only ask some of my friends to help me donate some money to him. I feel so tough in heart when I think of his family condition but cannot help a lot. Though I dare not say our friendship is very deep, it is a destiny that we make friends with each other and we should both cherish our friendship! Now, on top of a few soothing statements, I can do little.
所以, 今天我在这篇日记里, 想号召大家为我的这位朋友捐款! 不管你捐多少, 十块, 五块, 甚至一块, 我想我的朋友和他的家人都会很感谢大家! 这绝对不是QQ的骗钱事件, 如果有怀疑的朋友可以和我视频谈, 或者我也可以打电话过去给你们验证. 我一直觉得, 全社会是一家人, 我们应该相互帮助相互关爱. 每个人都有困难而需要别人帮忙的时候. 所以请看过这篇文章的朋友可以想想我那位朋友现在的状况, 想想他年老的父亲被疾病折磨得痛苦不堪的情景, 而你们少吃一个面包, 少喝一瓶饮料, 就可以让他得到更好的治疗! 我想这些话大家都听多了, 可是只要你再仔细想想, 你会发现别人很惨, 而你很幸福! 幸福的你为什么不能帮一下有需要的人呢? 新年伊始, 我相信好心的人, 命运最后也一定会眷顾他的! 想要捐钱的朋友可以在QQ或者邮箱上联系我, 把你们的姓名报给我, 然后我会通过邮箱把深大一个同学的平安卡账号和他的名字发给你, 到时你通过网上或者柜台转账过去就行了, 等把钱收齐以后我们会统一汇给那位朋友! 最后我会向大家公布筹集到的款项情况. 如果大家信得过我而且愿意捐钱的话, 就联系我吧! 正如我上面所说的, 钱多钱少没关系, 主要是你的心意! 在此我预先感谢准备捐钱的同学朋友们, 也祝福我的朋友的父亲早日康复!
Therefore, today I am in my diary calling for all of you to donate some money for my friend! No matter how much you give, like ten, five, or even just one yuan, my friend and his family will feel greatly obliged to you! It is not a deceptive advertisement in QQ. Any of you who feels suspicious of the truth of this article could talk to me personally or ask for my phone call to verify. I have long held that our society is a big family and we should help and love each other. Everyone will encounter a difficult situation that needs others’ hands. Therefore, I hope you can think of my friend’s condition and his father’s being tortured by illness! If you save the money of buying a piece of bread or a bottle of drink and donate it to my friend, his father can receive better treatment! I think all of you here have heard enough about such statements, but if you can think deeper, you will realize that my friend is very poor and that you are very happy in this world. At the outset of this year, I believe that man with good hearts will receive good futures! Anyone who wants to donate money can contact me through QQ or mailbox and meantime send your name to me. Then I will send you a bank account to which you can remit your money. After collecting all the money, I will remit it to my friend and release the funding statement. So if you trust me and would like to take a good act, please contact me! As I have mentioned above, the amount of money you are going to donate is far less important than your kind heart! Here I am expressing my greatest gratitude to you as well as my sincere wishes to my friend’s father! |
