我曾经以为, 一个人不管曾经多么骄纵与轻狂, 岁月的艰涩终究会让他慢慢变得沉稳与平和, 变得更加成熟与懂事. 如果说一个人在未踏入社会前都没有吃过苦, 那么踏入社会吃过一段苦头后, 他大概会懂得工作和挣钱的不容易, 因而会更加懂得体谅身边的人, 特别是父母, 为了自己的成长而不断谋生的艰辛. 于是, 他就会变得更加地顾家和爱家, 凡事都会想到家里人的感受, 并以此来慎重抉择自己的人生.
然而, 我突然间发现, 我错了. 身边一个又一个的例子向我证明了一句话的真实性: 江山易改, 本性难移. 一个生性孤傲而且脾气易怒之人, 哪怕明知道自己家境不好, 父母受苦, 哪怕经历过生活中的浮浮沉沉, 他依旧不会改变自己一向的作风, 依旧对家里人颐指气使, 依旧动不动就闹脾气, 好像全世界都得罪了他一样. 不仅如此, 这种人做事根本不会考虑到家里的实际条件, 自顾自己快活, 在外面豪吃豪喝, 大宴群友, 而父母则在家里艰难度日, 为他筹谋得白发增添不少.
有时, 我会同情这种人的父母, 因为他们好不容易把孩子拉扯大了, 一路以来劳心劳力, 可是到头来却要受儿女气, 那种痛心没有经历过的人难以体会的. 但是, 正如一句话所说的, 可怜之人必有可恨之处. 从某种程度上说, 这类父母也是活该的, 因为他们在孩子小的时候只会一昧地宠溺孩子, 甚至美其名曰 “民主”. 曾几何时, 我是多么羡慕那些 “民主”的家庭, 因为父母总是尊重孩子的意愿, 哪怕孩子的有些要求不合理, 他们也会让孩子实现他们的心愿. 记得我小时候, 我非常敬畏母亲, 她说一我不敢说二. 她对我生活上的要求非常严格, 不允许我学坏. 那时我会还常常在内心抱怨她, 因为村子里别家的父母对孩子都不会这么严厉. 母亲对我的言行进行严厉的约束, 特别是当发现我干坏事时, 比如说偷钱或者偷别人的东西, 她会毫不留情地狠狠教训我. 而对于我平时的花钱, 除了早餐钱以外, 她不会给我任何的零花钱. 当然, 这至今在我看来, 仍然有点过于严酷了, 但是不管怎样, 至今想来, 我真的非常感激母亲曾经对我的严厉, 否则我真的不知道我现在会变成什么样子.
同是我也深深地体会到, 孩子如果小时候不教好, 长大以后真是 “后害无穷”. 很多习惯都是小时候养成的. 所以, 如果一个人小时候能养成良好的生活习惯和学习习惯, 那么他长大以后就注定会成功; 相反, 如果小时候养成懒懒散散, 做事拖拖拉拉的习惯, 那么长大以后就很难改变了, 除非有重大的人生事件发生让这个人突然醒悟过来. 我记得自己初中时有一个同学, 刚开始并不爱学习, 天天混日子. 可是有一天, 他的父亲遭遇车祸, 不幸死亡. 他父亲临死前一再叮嘱要他好好读书, 以后才能有出息. 也就是从那一天起, 他才一改从前懒散之风, 不断发奋向上. 我已经很久没和这位同学联系了, 但是我坚信, 他现在一定仍然朝着他自己的目标努力着, 而他的父亲也可以含笑九泉了. 但是, 如果一个人需要用这样的人生巨变来让自己醒悟, 是不是太残忍了? 你愿意吗? 我想, 没有一个人愿意用亲人的生命来让自己觉悟. 所以, 人很多时候要靠自省才能发奋前进, 而孩子则需要父母从小严格要求, 为他培养良好的习惯, 培养优秀的品格和坚强的意志, 这样他才会在今后的人生走得更好. 当然, 父母本身也要以身作则, 否则孩子是不会学好的. 好比你叫孩子要早睡早起, 那么本身你自己就需要早睡早起, 孩子才会意识到它的重要性并且和你一起执行; 同样的, 你要求孩子做事不能拖泥带水, 而如果你本身做事也是拖泥带水的话, 那孩子也不会信服的.
曾经我写一些类似的文章时, 总会有朋友或者亲人会对号入座, 问我是不是在写他们. 对于这样的问题, 我一般不会作出回答. 为什么呢? 一方面, 如果你问我这个问题, 说明你已经意识到了我文章中提及的问题也存在于你的身上, 那么你这样问其实是 “此地无银三百两”; 另一方面, 如果说我写的内容和你的经历有相似之处的话, 那么我只能回答你说, 我只是写我见过的一类人, 至于是不是你, 那你自己去推敲体会了. 最后我只想说, 一个人活在世上并不是孤立的个体, 做一些事情之前要好好考虑一下家人和朋友的感受, 懂得体谅别人是一个人最美好的品格.
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China braces for 2 typhoons
By Jin Zhu in Beijing and Shi Yingying in Shanghai (China Daily)
East China's coastal regions have begun emergency preparations as two typhoons approached the country on Wednesday.
The center of typhoon Saola, the ninth typhoon this year, was about 210 km southeast of Hualien, Taiwan, at 1 pm on Wednesday, the National Marine Environmental Forecasting Center said.
Typhoon Saola would make landfall over Taiwan's coast or the northeastern waters of the island on Wednesday night or this morning, the center said.
Heavy rains and strong winds from Saola are forecast to hit coastal areas in Fujian and Zhejiang provinces on Thursday night or Friday morning, it said.
The center of the 10th typhoon, Damrey, was about 1,230 km southeast of Rizhao city in East China's Shandong province at 1 pm on Wednesday. The typhoon may land on coastal regions in Jiangsu and Shandong provinces on Thursday night or Friday morning, according to the center.
Premier Wen Jiabao on Wednesday urged local governments to closely monitor the typhoons and their effect on major rivers, and publicize relevant information in a timely manner.
Wen made the remarks in Zhengzhou, Henan province, during his inspection of efforts to prevent flooding in the Yellow River, according to Xinhua News Agency.
"Ensuring people's safety should be prioritized," he said, adding that local authorities should intensify efforts to guard residential areas, schools, factories, mines, railways, highways, and tourism spots from floods.
The State Flood Control and Drought Relief Headquarters said on Tuesday that the upcoming two typhoons are very likely to move further inland after landing on the coastal regions.
Strong winds and heavy rains from the typhoons may cover more than 10 provinces in the days ahead, and that would test the country's flood-control capabilities, it said.
On Wednesday, Taiwan issued torrential-rain and strong-wind warnings for most of the island in preparation for Saola after it passed through the Philippines, leaving at least 14 people dead.
Heavy rain fell in Taipei on Wednesday, where authorities were expected to decide whether to order businesses and financial markets to close, Reuters reported.
The Maritime Safety Administration of Fujian province issued a maritime alert on Monday, updating the typhoon information via VHF communication radio and short-message services to warn boats.
The Fujian provincial department of ocean and fisheries said on Wednesday that more than 41,000 fishing boats had been ordered to return to port. It said 8,094 people have been relocated as the typhoon approaches.
On Tuesday, flights between Xiamen and Jinmen, and Quanzhou and Jinmen, have been canceled because of Saola.
The operation of the passenger liners Haixia, which links Fujian province's Pingtan county and Taiwan's Taichung city, and Cosco Star, which travels between Xiamen and Keelong, were also suspended for safety concerns.
In Shanghai, emergency preparation is in place. "It's quite rare that Shanghai will be influenced by two typhoons (Saola and Damrey) at the same time," said Zhang Zhenyu, a spokesman for the city's flood prevention department.
He added that the government of Shanghai is speeding up improvement to the city's drainage system, and that special attention has been paid to the underground metro.
"Every entrance of metro station has been blocked up for a few steps, and we've prepared boards made by aluminum alloy (for further blocking up) and extra drainage pumps just in case," Zhang said.
Feng Hao, spokesman for Shanghai Shentong Metro Group Co, said speed restrictions would be applied to Shanghai's metros if the average speed of the wind reaches 17.2 meters per second or above. "Metro stations may be even temporarily shut down if necessary," he said.
Wind meters were installed for the first time at some of the metro's Line 2 stations, Feng said. The wind-meter readings go directly to the station control room, he added. |
