有时, 我真的不知道自己是不是一个好老师.
我觉得其实我是一个很能忍受的人, 不管面对多么难缠的人, 我都不会轻易发脾气,尤其是对待我的学生. 但是再能忍的人也会有无法忍受的时候,或者说无法忍受的方面. 对我来讲, 我最难以忍受的就是不守时的人, 不管是学生还是朋友.
平时由于太多学生的缘故, 在很多时候我的时间表都会被排得很满很满, 两个学生的间隔可能就只有十分钟甚至没有间隔, 前一个学生刚上完,后一个学生就按门铃了. 所以如果一旦有学生迟到, 我就会感到慌乱.而如果学生迟到超过十分钟以上, 我真的会有一种想窒息的感觉. 一个学生迟到了, 最终的结果是导致我留给后一个学生很差的印象, 因为别人准时来了而我却无法准时上课. 另外哪怕我后面没有学生,也往往会有别的事情, 比如说约了朋友等等, 如果学生迟到了, 也会导致我后面的事情被迫要延迟, 所以有时真的感到挺郁闷的.
不过, 对于我们培训老师来讲, 学生就是顾客, 就是上帝, 所以上帝的行为都是对的, 我也只能尽量控制自己的情绪了. 其实, 迟到也并不是什么大事, 迟到的人也并不是做了什么十恶不赦的罪人, 但是对一个时间观念很强的人来讲, 对方的迟到是令人难以忍受的. 而我偏偏就是这么一个人, 所以备感痛苦.在我看来, 尊重别人的时间是对别人最大的尊重. 有一个朋友说, 在某些方面我太有原则性了. 如果说守时是一种 “太有原则性” 的行为, 那么, 我会坚持到底, 因为我喜欢做事快速果断, 不喜欢拖拖拉拉.
所以, 我特别喜欢那些守时的朋友和学生, 因为他们给予了我最需要的尊重. 当然, 人非圣贤, 孰能无过? 偶然间的迟到也是可以谅解的, 毕竟每个人都有急事的时候. 而哪怕是要晚到, 至少也要发个信息或者打个电话给一直等候你的人, 告知他你大概要晚到多长时间, 而不能让别人一直在空等而不知要等到什么时候. 这和借别人钱是一样的. 你借了别人的钱说好什么时候还就要什么时候还, 要是到期实在还不了,也要和别人提前说明情况, 征求延期还钱. 不然到期了没还也一声不吭, 弄得债权人不知道你是没钱还, 还是故意不还, 这又何必呢? 人无信而不立, 一个人如果不守信, 那么最后只会落得众叛亲离的后果, 以后谁也不会再帮你了.
不过这些话说起来容易, 真正做起来可就难了. 有时候我想, 这个社会不应该责怪 “太有原则性” 的人, 而应该鼓励大家都要成为有原则性的人.
A few days ago, I gave a call to my friend, but she refused to answer my call. Later, she sent me a message and told me that she was sorry for she was not in the mood to chat with me at that time so she hanged up my call. She felt so down and so sad for her grandmother just passed away. And she felt so sorry for her grandmother for being unable to offer a better life for her in her old age. I understood how painful my friend was.
She and her grandmother had stayed together and helped each other in difficulties since she was born. My friend is the second child in her family. That goes against family planning policy, so her parents couldn’t keep her in their family and left her in her grandmother’s home. Her grandmother was her mother’s mother and she had given birth to three children. There is a son and two daughters. One of them is my friend’s mother. Grandmother lost her husband when their children were young. And she brought their children up alone since then. Finally, as their children grew up, they had their own life and own family in other places. And they left grandmother living alone until my friend was born. From then on, grandmother lived together with my friend in their old house and she brought my friend up alone. Their living expense and my friend’s tuition fee were paid by my friend’s parents, but they were very limited, so the life for them was not easy. In order to offer a better living for my friend, grandmother always pinched and scraped. As time passed by, my friend grew up and went to university, and at last she graduated from the university and got a job. On the other hand, grandmother grew older and older, and none of her children were willing to take care of her. They only gave some very limited money to her. And they seldom visited her and cared about her. Only my friend wanted to take care of her, but as my friend had to work in other places, she only could see and take care of grandmother on weekend or other vacation.
Actually, I was shocked when I read this news and my tears were flowing out when I recalled her grandmother. I had only met her grandmother once. It was during the National Day of this year. By this year, thought grandmother was still healthy, her sight was getting worse and worse and her action was getting slower and slower. It’s more and more difficult for her to cook a meal for herself, so she often gave up cooking and eating normal meal when she lived alone. Instead, she would drink some milk and eat other foods which were bought by my friend as they were easy for her to eat. Every time my friend came back home, she would cook a meal and eat together with her. I never knew these things if I didn’t went to their home together with my friend. When I heard all the things about grandmother, I feel very angry about grandmother’s children. How can they treat their mother like that? I wonder where their conscience is. Before I left grandmother’s home, I gave her some money. My friend didn’t allow me to do that at first, but as I insisted, she accepted it finally. And I told grandmother and my friend that I would come to visit her next time when I come back home. But now, there are not any chance for me to visit grandmother any more, what a pity. At that time, though I was a stranger for grandmother, I did care about her and felt sympathetic for her and I did hope she could live a happy life in her old age. I don’t understand why their children are so cruel to her, why they can’t take good care of her in the rest of her life. Undoubtedly, life nowadays is easier than the life in the past. Grandmother could raise three children alone in the past, why can’t they support grandmother’s life when she needed to be taken care of nowadays.
But worse still, as far as I know, not only had my friend’s grandmother received such bad treatment from their children, but many senior citizens who didn’t have pension had faced such bad situation. All of them have several children, but when they got older and older and lost living ability, their children are reluctant to support their life and take care of them. This is a big problem in our society. I really hope such bad behavior would disappear one day. As the children of the old person, the closest relatives and the only hope of the old person, if we can’t take care of them by ourselves, we should at least try our best to employ a good nurse to take care of them. Please don’t leave them alone when they lost living ability and need helps from you. |
