Today is my 33rd birthday, and at this very moment I am likely sipping a fruity drink by a pool in Las Vegas.
今天是我33岁生日，此时此刻我多么希望在拉斯维加斯的一个游泳池边啜饮一杯水果饮料。
My boyfriend and I go there often on his Monday and Tuesday off days because it’s not too far from LA; the weekday hotel rates are great; and we’re both huge fans of buffets, shows, and (occasional) poolside day drinking.
我男朋友和我常常会在他周一和周二的休息日去那里，因为它离拉斯维加斯不远；工作日酒店的房价很高；我们都热衷于自助餐，表演和（偶尔的）游泳池边整日啜饮。
Since I’m writing this in advance, I can’t speak to how I actually feel right in this very moment, but I imagine (and hope) it will be a little something like this:
因为我是提前写的这些，所以我说不清楚我此时此刻真实的感受，但是我幻想和（希望）的情景如下：
I’m wearing a bikini, not a one-piece, like I did for years when I was younger—and I’m rocking it with confidence because I’ve finally decided my imperfect 5’1″ figure is flawsome.
我穿着一件比基尼，不是上下连在一起的那种，正如我年轻时所做的那样——我自信满满地摆动着比基尼，因为最终我已经决定了我不完美的 5’1″身材是完美无缺的。
I’m fully lathered in sunscreen, despite my pasty, almost transparent complexion, because I’ve realized I need to take care of my body if I want it to be healthy.
尽管我的皮肤白皙，几乎透明，但是我给全身都涂抹上防晒霜，因为我意识到如果要保持健康，我就需要照顾好自己的身体。
I’m mesmerized by the sun and the water, and easing into the moment, despite having a ton of work to do and even more professional uncertainty.
我沉醉于阳光和水，尽情地享受这一时刻，尽管我还有一大堆工作要做，甚至更多的职业不确定性要去面对。
And I’m grateful for a million and one things worth loving—smiling strangers, free WiFi, enjoyable work I do through it, and time to disconnect from it.
同时我感激许许多多值得给予可爱笑脸的陌生人，免费无线上网，工作期间愉悦的工作氛围和脱离工作的享受时间。
Looking back over the years, I realize my biggest challenge has always been learning to let go. I put so much energy into trying to control my body, my relationships, and my future that I wasn’t able to relax and enjoy the moment.
回顾往昔，我认识到一直以来我最大的挑战是学会放手。我花费了很大的精力在尝试控制自我，人际关系和未来上面，以致我不能很好的放松和享受快乐时刻。
This is something I still work at, but I’ve made a lot of progress.
这些依然是我需要应对的，但是我已经取得了许多进步。
So in honor of this day, I decided to share with you 33 things I’ve learned to accept and embrace:
所以为了庆祝这一天，我决定和你分享33件我已经学会接受和信奉的事情。
1. Beauty cannot be defined. Beauty is a reflection of what we deem valuable. For me, it’s an inner radiance and bliss that transcends judgment and fear, or at least makes an effort to.
1.美是不能被定义的。 所谓的美就是我们认为是有价值的事物的反映。对我而言，美是一种内在的光芒和快乐，它超越了判断和恐惧，亦或是至少你做出的努力。
2. Perfection cannot be obtained (and it’s boring anyways). Trying to be perfect makes us feel inferior and desperate to change; owning our uniqueness makes us feel worthy and excited to evolve.
2. 完美是不能获得的（而且完美总是令人厌烦的）。 努力达到完美让我们感到自卑和迫切地想要改变；拥有个性让我们感到自我价值和前进的激情。
3. Love will be messy at times. Sometimes love looks nothing like the ideal. Unless you’re in an unhealthy relationship, lean into the messiness. That’s where the intimacy is.
3. 爱有时很棘手。有时爱一点也不如人所愿 。除非你处于一个不良的关系中，不然你就会陷入混乱之中。这就是亲密之所在。
5. Sometimes there is no right or wrong. There isn’t always a right decision or answer. It’s just about what feels right to us right now, and whether we have the courage to honor it.
5. 有时没有所谓的对与错 。永远正确的决定和答案并不存在。有的只是此刻我们对于正确的感知及我们是否有勇气去承认它。
6. No one else knows what’s right for us. Someone else may seem certain they know what we should do. Should can be deceiving; it seduces us with the promise of an ideal destination when what we really need is to choose for ourselves and then pave our path as we go.
6. 没有人知道什么适合我们。 其他人似乎肯定他们知道我们应该做什么。“应该”可能具有欺骗性；当我们真正需要为自己做出选择，然后在前进的道路上扫除障碍时，“应当”用理想目的地的允诺诱导了我们。
7. Tomorrow is uncertain. Despite all our planning, plotting, worrying, or dreading, what will be will be—and no matter how scared we feel right now, we can and will make the most of it.
7. 明天是未知的。 尽管我们所有的计划，策划，担忧或者恐惧，但是该来的还是要来——不论现在我们感到多么害怕，我们能够并且会战胜它。
8. There are things we don’t know. And there are things we don’t know that we don’t know. It might be humbling to revise our understandings of things, but this is how we grow.
8. 有些事我们不知道。 有些事情我们不知道我们不知道。修正我们对于事物的理解可能被认为是卑贱的，但是这见证了我们是如何成长的。
9. No other person can make us feel whole. Sometimes we’ll feel a void and turn to other people to fill it. Mutually fulfilling relationships involve two whole people who complement, not complete each other.
9. 没有人会让我们感到完整。 有时我们会感到空虚，进而会找别人来填补空虚。相互满意的人际关系包括两个互补的完整的人，而不是纯粹的相互完成任务。
10. We can’t change other people. We have to want to change in order to do it. No matter how much we wish someone would act differently, it has to be his or her choice.
10. 我们不能改变他人。 我们必须为了改变而改变。不管我们多么希望别人能够与众不同，但是那是他或她的选择。
11. There are some things we can’t change about ourselves. Change sells, and it’s seductive, but certain things cannot be changed—like parts of our body or nature.
11. 有些事情我们自身是不能改变的。 改变很珍贵，改变很诱人，但是确定的事情不能被改变，就像我们身体或自然的一部分是不容改变的。
12. Sometimes there are gifts in the things we want to change. For years I cursed my heightened emotions; now I channel them into something positive. Don’t run from yourself; grow into yourself.
12. 有时我们想要改变的事物会给我们带来惊喜。 多年以来我对自己易高涨的情绪深恶痛疾；而现在我把这些情绪融入到积极的事物里。不要脱离自我；而要在自我中成长。
13. We are worthy, just as we are. Growth is a lifelong proposition, with no static endpoint. We do it not because we lack value, just as we are, but because we value ourselves.
13. 我们的存在都是有价值的，这是我们的天性。 成长是一个终生的命题，没有静态终点。 我们这样做不是因为我们缺少价值，就如我们的天性一样，而是因为我们重视自己的价值。
14. We are going to age. With every year that passes, we have 365 days to enjoy that age—and no one age is better than another. Each is different, with its own challenges and gifts.
14.我们会慢慢变成熟。 每年随风而过，每年我们都有365天的时间来享用这一过程——这一成熟过程没有优劣。每一阶段都不同，带有其自身的挑战和馈赠。
15. We are more than any one role. We aren’t one-dimensional, and we don’t have to be. Recognizing this has been huge for me. I am a self-help writer who also likes Judd Apatow movies, karaoke bars, and eBay. I’m multifaceted and owning it!
15. 我们扮演的并不是任何一个角色。 我们的生活不是单方面的，而且我们并不需要向这方面努力。认识到这一点对我来说很重要。我是一个自助作家，我也喜欢贾德·阿帕图的电影、卡拉ok、酒吧和易趣。我的生活具有多面性，本人也从中自得其乐！
16. We are going to redefine ourselves. It’s tempting to cling to roles and ideas of who we are, but who we are is always evolving. Life’s far more fulfilling if we see changes as adventures.
16. 我们需要重新定义自我。 坚持自己的角色和想法确实很吸引人，但是自我的角色总是不断变化。如果我们把改变看做奇遇，那么生活会更加令人满意。
17. We will occasionally have to do things we don’t want to do. We won’t always love the things we need to do, for work or the people we care about, but we can find something enjoyable in it, if that’s our intention.
17. 我们时常需要做自己不想做的事情。 我们不会总是喜欢做需要做的事情，不论是为了工作还是我们关心的人 ，但是如果我们愿意，我们可以从中寻找到快乐。
18. We will hurt at times. Pain is inevitable. It’s not a sign that something’s wrong with us or our lives; it’s a sign that we’re human, and we have the courage to care and live fully.
18. 有时我们会受伤。 伤痛不可避免。伤痛不是我们或我们生活出问题的标志；它是我们作为人类的标志，它代表着我们有勇气去照顾自己和诠释生命的意义。
19. We will mess up at times. We will make mistakes—and sometimes the same ones over and over again. This is a big part of how we learn. The important thing is that we do.
19. 有时我们会陷入困境。 我们会犯错——有时是重复地犯着同一个错误。而犯错是我们学习过程中重要的一部分。重要的是我们能够改正错误。
20. People won’t always forgive us. We can’t make someone stay in our lives; we can only make amends and then be strong enough to accept the consequences of our actions.
20. 我们并不是总会得到别人的谅解。 我们不能让别人停驻在我们的生活里；我们只能想办法弥补，然后坚强地接受我们行动的后果。
21. Peace is forgiving ourselves. We don’t deserve to cower in shame—and it won’t do us any good. If we want to be happy, we need to cut ourselves some slack and believe we’re doing the best we can.
21. 平和就是学会宽恕自己。 我们不能因为羞愧而胆怯——并且这一点也不起作用。如果我们想要获得快乐，我们就需要学会镇定并相信我们可以做的更好。
22. We won’t always like the consequences of our actions. Sometimes we’ll feel regret, wishing we could go back and do things differently. We can’t—but we can make different choices going forward.
22. 我们并不是总满意于我们行为的后果。 有时，我们会后悔，从而希望时光倒流，重新做一次选择。结果是我们不能——但是我们可以在前行的路上做出不同的选择。
23. We always have a choice in how we respond to what happens. No matter what our circumstances, we can choose what we do with them. We can decide it’s the end of the world, or start fresh from right where we stand.
23.我们总是可以选择如何应对发生的事。 不论在什么情况下，我们都可以选择应对它们的方法。我们可以选择认定它是世界末日，或者选择从我们站立的地方重新开始。
24. We are never alone. It might feel like it, but there is always someone to offer love, kindness, and support. We just need to be willing to reach out and ask for what we need.
24. 我们从不孤单 。可能我们会感到孤单，但是总有人为我们提供爱、善心和支持。我们要做的就是愿意接受并寻找自己想要的。
25. We will lose things and people we love—but we can gain something from every loss. Everything in life is impermanent—and no amount of time will feel like enough with the people we love. Loss hurts, be we can heal if we believe it’s possible.
25. 我们会失去所爱的人和物——但是我们也可以从每一次的失去中获得某些东西。 生活中的一切事物都不是永久的，再多的时间对我们所爱的人来说都是不够的。失去总是令人心痛，但是如果我们坚信可能性存在，还是可以治愈的。
26. Everything is cyclical. For every pain, there will be pleasure. Nothing stays the same, so relax through the tough times and fully enjoy the fun times. Everything transforms eventually.
26. 万事万物都具有周期性。 每一次伤痛过后，都会有快乐。没有事物是一成不变的，所以坦然面对艰难困苦，尽情地享受欢乐时光。一切事物最后都会转换的。
27. There are some things we may never understand. Much of life is a mystery, and it’s human nature to try to solve it. Peace is learning to embrace the open-ended questions.
27. 有些事我们永远也不会懂。生活中的很多事就是一个谜，人 类本性驱使我们尝试去揭开神秘面纱。平和就是学会接受开放式问题。
28. The worst that could possibly happen may happen. Sometimes the thing we fear the most may happen, making us wish we didn’t make a change, or an effort, or a fuss.
28.最糟糕的事也可能发生。 有时我们最害怕的事可能会发生，这使我们多么希望我们没有做出改变、努力或慌乱。
29. The worst that could possibly happen might not be that bad. If we’re willing to consider the possibility, we may find opportunity in that “horrible” thing. At the very least, we may recognize we’re okay—still here, still strong, still breathing.
29. 可能发生的最糟糕的事可能没有你想象的那么糟糕。 如果我们愿意考虑这个可能性，我们就会在这个“可怕”事件中找到机会。至少。我们会认识到我们很好——依然在这里，依然健壮，依然呼吸着。
30. We may not get everything we think we want. Despite all our best-laid plans, things won’t always turn out as we hoped they would.
30. 我们可能不会得到我们认为我们想要的一切。 尽管我们计划缜密，但事实证明事情常常不是我们预期的那样。
31. As the Rolling Stones sang, we can still get what we need. We may not get the job, the house, the call, or whatever we wanted so badly, and yet find we have everything that matters. Hopefully we can see and celebrate it.
31. 正如滚石乐队所唱的那样，我们依旧可以得到我们需要的东西。 我们可能得不到一份工作、房子、电话或者我们迫切希望得到的一切，但是我们还是可以发现自己所拥有的一切都是非常珍贵的。我希望我们可以认识到这一点，并为它喝彩。
32. We might always want more. It’s human nature to wonder what else there is, at least at times. We can use this to fuel progress, instead of cursing our nature and ourselves for not being perfectly spiritual.
32. 我们总是渴望得到更多。 欲壑难平是人类本性所使，至少偶尔是这样的。我们可以把这一点当做前进的动力，而不是因为精神境界不完美而咒骂我们的本性和我们自己。
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