If someone you love is having a tough time right now, there are some things that you can remind them of which will help them trough their difficulties. Remind your loved one of the following things in a warm, encouraging way.
如果你所爱之人正身处逆境，你可以对他们说一些能帮助他们走出逆境的话。用温柔的语气，鼓励的方式提醒你所爱之人这几件事。
1.You’re Not Alone
你不是一个人
Identifying with the person who is struggling can help them feel better. They realize, then, that they are not bearing the weight of the world alone. Remind them that others have had this problem, and that they already have found a way through it. Just knowing that they are not alone can help them feel less lonely and more hopeful.
帮助在战斗的人意识到他不是孤独的能让他有一个较好的感觉。他们会意识到他并没有背负整个世界的重量。告诉他们别人也有这样的问题，他们也已经熬过来了。只要知道他们不是独自在战斗，他们就不会觉得太孤独，就会有希望。
2.Let Go of Blame
不要自责
Sometimes when people are struggling, they either want to blame themselves or other people for their circumstances. It’s OK to initially express anger and frustration, but wallowing in feelings of unfairness or blame will make them feel worse and wastes their energy. Help your loved one to see that the way out their difficulties is in looking for solutions and not in assigning blame or hanging onto angry feelings.
有时候，在困境中的他们会想要责备别人，责怪自己。最开始想要发泄心中的愤懑和难受是可以的，但是一直沉浸在不公平、自责的情绪中会让他们觉得更糟，也浪费他们自身的精力。帮助你所爱之人去认识到走出困境的方法就是找到解决办法，而非一直怨恨，沉浸于不满的情绪里。
3.Struggles Make You Stronger
战斗会让你更强壮
Wisdom, strength and resilience can all be built from the foundations of tough times. Help your loved one to see how they’re growing as a person, even if they feel like they’re going through hell. It’s so important not to be glib or patronizing when you’re saying this ‒ actually tell your loved one the new strengths you see in them.
智慧、坚强、坚韧都能在最艰难的时刻为我们打下良好的基础。即使他们感觉自己正身处地狱，也要帮助你所爱之人意识到他们正在成长。这时候不需要华丽的辞藻、谦卑的语气---实实在在地告诉他们你在他们身上所看到的新优点。
4.Take a Step Back
退后一步
People going through tough times often lose perspective, because they feel so mired in the problem itself. Reminding someone to step back from the situation can help them to see things in a fresh light, and will help them find new solutions.
身处困境的人通常会觉得失去了希望，因为他们觉得问题本身就能让他们难以应对。告诉他们在这样的情况下会退后一步，能帮助他们用用不一样的视角来看待这件事，帮助他们找到解决办法。
5.Nothing Lasts Forever
没什么是永远
The terrible thing about really tough times is that they feel like they will go on forever. But, in reality, nothing lasts forever ‒ not even the most horrible emotions or the direst circumstances. Reminding your loved one of this can help them gain perspective.
困难最棘手的部分就在于他们会觉得困难是永远的。但是，实际上，没什么会是永恒的---甚至最恐怖的情感，最糟糕的情况也不会持续到永远。将这些信息传达给你爱的人能帮助他们收获希望。
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