Do you condemn yourself for things which you did--or failed to do--in the past? Everyone
does this at some point. However, if you want to lead a successful and productive life, it is
imperative that you release the past and not blame yourself for events which have already
transpired and which can not be changed.
The successful person takes this approach: Learn from past mistakes and make adjustments
in future behavior. The strategy of berating yourself for past conduct solves nothing and only
serves to lower your self-esteem. You create a vicious cycle where negative experiences and
negative feelings are reinforced, which leads to more negative outcomes and more negative
feelings.
If you insist on dwelling in the past, I suggest that you focus on your past successes.
Visualizing and thinking about past successes is an excellent way to build confidence and self-
esteem. What you think about is what you become. Therefore, when you concentrate on your
successes, you help to create future successes.
When you find yourself starting to dwell on past negative experiences, immediately halt
and remind yourself:"There is nothing I can do now which will change what happened. I learned a
valuable lesson and will act in a more constructive manner next time." Regardless of what you
have done--or failed to do--the only sane approach is to accept it and move forward.
The successful individual does not waste precious mental energy dwelling on past events
which cannot be changed. Instead, he or she uses past mistakes as learning experiences and
springboards to future successes.
后记：
The number one killer in the world today is neither cancer nor heart disease－It is
repression: unexpressed, repressed or suppressed, this energy becomes toxic－without
release it surfaces in lumps, headaches, back pain, tumors, depression and other symptoms
of physical distress. |
