Most of us find it far easier to say, "I love you" to another person than to ourselves. In a world surrounded with images of what success, happiness and beauty looks like, it's easy to feel like we don't measure up. That we're not good enough. That we don't DESERVE to feel good about ourselves.
我们绝大多数会发现对他人说“我爱你”远比对自己说要容易的多。在这样一个什么是成功，幸福和美的世界里，很容易觉得我们自身无法估量。我们自身也不够好，我们不应该觉得我们做的很好。
We start climbing the corporate ladder, striving towards a particular goal thinking, "Once I get that promotion" or "Once I look like THAT girl, I'll be happy". What we don't "get" is that self-esteem comes first. Liking yourself isn't a by-product of success; it's the very foundation of leading a more successful life, both at work and at home. We don't get that we already are THAT girl!
我们在升职的道路上努力前行，为了特定的目标而奋斗，会想“假如我这次升职了”或者“假如我能像那个女孩一样漂亮，我就会很幸福”。爱自己不是成功的附属品，却是成功生活的基石，不论是生活还是工作。而我们没有的恰恰是最开始就应该有的自尊。我们没有意识到我们已经是那样的女孩了！
So, how do we get there? I'll admit it's no easy task, especially if we're used to putting ourselves down, but it is achievable and you can start RIGHT NOW.
那么，我们怎么才能做到呢？首先必须承认这不是一项容易的工作，特别是我们轻视自己的时候，但是如果你能从现在就开始时可以完成的。
I AM THAT GIRL
我就是我理想中的那个女孩！
Emily Greener is the co-founder of an organization called I AM THAT GIRL whose goal is to build a community of support that inspires women and girls to think for themselves and discover their purpose in life.
艾米丽格雷纳是一家名字叫做“我就是我理想中的那个女孩”组织的合伙人，这个组织旨在激励女性为自己着想和发现生活的目标。
I AM THAT GIRL travels the country speaking to groups of women about self-worth, confidence issues and the pressures to look a certain way. They inspire honest dialog and have attracted some pretty high profile ambassadors along the way. Sophia Bush, Kate Bosworth, Kristin Bell and Emmanuelle Chiriqui are all proud to say, "I AM THAT GIRL".
该组织在全国各地巡游，对妇女团体开展演讲，内容涉及自我价值，自信和缓解压力的方法。他们开展个各种热烈的对话而且一路走来吸引了不少漂亮的形象大使。索菲亚布什、凯特布斯沃斯、克瑞斯汀贝尔和艾曼纽勒池瑞秋都骄傲地说：“我就是我理想中的那个女孩！”
I was lucky enough to catch up with Emily at her home in Santa Monica, California, to talk more about how we can boost our own self-esteem and start living the life of our dreams today.
我很有幸在艾米丽位于加利福尼亚升塔莫尼卡的家里跟她详谈了关于如何提升自信心和过梦想的生活。
THE THREE "C's"
三C原则
Want to feel more confident? Then you're going to need the three C's- Compassion, Community and Challenge.
想要更自信吗？那么你需要学习下面的三C原则------同情心、社团和挑战( 三C原则因这三个词的英文均以C开头）。艾米丽做了如下解释：
1. COMPASSION - TELL YOURSELF YOU ROCK.
1.同情心--告诉自己你要超越自我
I know it's hard, I know you want to cringe, but write down a list of all the reason's why you rock. It might take a minute to figure them out, but once you start looking, you'll discover that you really do rock. Who knew?!
我知道这很困难，我也知道你想退缩，但是你需要做的是写下你要超越自我的原因。这可能需要花费一点时间，但是一旦你写了，你就会发现你确实想超越自我。原因不得而知！
Carry that list with you and remind yourself of it throughout the day and you'll soon find yourself replacing that negative self-talk with positive thoughts about yourself.
随身携带这个东西，要天天反思它的内容，很快你就会发现你自己正在用积极的暗示来代替那些消极的暗示。
Ask yourself, "How would I love to be loved?" Figure out what activities you need to do to feel truly nourished- physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. It could be reading a book that inspires you or working up a sweat at the gym, or eating healthily. Whatever it is, make sure you schedule it into your diary and prioritize it. Emily urges us to make time for No.1…YOU!
问问自己：“为什么我喜欢被爱？”搞清楚如果想确实在身体、智力、情绪和精神上都得到升华都需要做什么。有可能是激励你的一本好书，健身房的大汗淋漓或者是健康饮食。无论是什么，确保你把它列入了你的每日计划，并且优先实行。艾米丽鼓励我们要为此腾出时间---------谨记！
2. COMMUNITY - FIND FRIENDS WHO HELP YOU ROCK
2.社团---寻找能帮助你超越自我的朋友
Like all exciting journeys, Emily doesn't think that you need to go it alone. She suggests you surround yourself with a positive female support system. Friends who will emphasize the positive and help you remove the negative.
就像所有激动人心的旅程一样，艾米丽建议你能找到帮助你超越自我的朋友，她建议创建一个身边有很多积极女性朋友的环境。这些朋友会帮助你拥有更多的积极想法，抛却更多的消极想法。
At first it may not seem easy to find your "groupies", but once you set it as a goal, you'll be amazed at how quickly they show up. Just being mindful of who has your back (and who wants to stick a knife into it) will help you weed out the lovers from the haters. When it comes to building your unique community of supporters, ask yourself, "Are they by my side through the good times and the bad?" Friends that are only there for you when times are bad are just as destructive as the "good time friends". Life has many ups and downs and you need your friends to be there for you during both. Vow to be THAT friend for them too.
最初，发现一群这样的朋友也许并非易事，一旦你把它列入目标，你会惊奇你的朋友们出现的如此之快。别忘了留意谁在背后支持你、谁在背后捅你刀子，这会让你分清敌友。但你开始建立自己的朋友群的时候，问问你自己“无论是顺利还是艰难他们都会支持我吗？”只在逆境中出现的朋友跟只在顺境中出现的朋友一样不可交。人生起起伏伏，哪个阶段我们都需要朋友的陪伴。自己也要发誓做到别人这样的朋友。
3. CHALLENGE - TAKE A RISK AND ROCK YOUR WORLD
3. 挑战---冒一次险，颠覆自己的世界
Emily believes that in order to grow, we need to push ourselves out of our comfort zone and do one thing that scares us everyday. It can be anything from talking to a person who usually intimidates you to asking for a pay raise.
艾米丽相信为了成长，我们需要每天逼着自己去让自己面对一项挑战，比如跟一个经常恐吓你的人谈话或者要求涨工资。
Sure it feels more comfortable resting on your laurels, but staying still doesn't build confidence- pushing yourself and achieving something that you've never done before builds confidence.
躺在以前的荣誉上是很舒服，但是这样不能让我们增长自信，反之强迫自己，完成一些你从没做过的事让你更有自信，
It can be painful, sure you'd prefer NOT to do it, but the sense of achievement will make you so glad you did. Whatever scares you, is your friend!
这种成长可能是痛苦的，当然你也不情愿去做，但是成就感会让你为自己的所作所为感到高兴。任何让你害怕的东西或人都可能是你的朋友。
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