Pick her chin up lightly in your hand. Bring her face up towards you, even if she gets embarrassed by the proximity and has to keep looking at the ground. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to look at you — if anything, it means she wants to look at you too much. Be patient with her eyes, the ones which dart everywhere in the room except the place they should be focused, because they are only shy in their fondness for you. Watch the way the light cradles her when you turn her up to face you. Watch it kiss the tops of her cheekbones and the tip of her nose, then do the same. Kiss each part of her face like it’s a scrape on a child’s knee that you want to heal with your affection.
慢慢托起她的下巴。让她的脸朝向你，尽管她可能会不好意思并一直盯着地面。那并不意味着她不想看着你，甚至正相反，那意味着她可能很想看着你。要对她那双胡乱看着屋里任何地方就是不看它们应该注视地方的眼睛抱有耐心，仅仅因为对你的喜爱才让那双眼睛变得害羞起来。当你抬起她的脸颊时，注意观察光线怀抱她的方式。观察光线亲吻她的颊骨和鼻尖，然后照做。就像你想要用你的感情来治愈一个小孩膝间的擦伤那样，亲吻她脸的每个部分。
Kiss her lightly. Understand just how many boys have kissed her too hard, too fast, too sloppily. Know that you can’t make up for every mistake they’ve made, but want to earn trust in showing that not every move has to be forceful and, at least initially, uncomfortable. Think about how many times a kiss has been interpreted as an invitation to things it was never meant to be, and let her guide you instead of assuming that you intimately know a map you’ve never seen before.
轻柔地亲吻她。你要懂到有多少男孩过于用力，迅速，不上心地亲吻过她。要知道虽然不能弥补他们所犯下的每个错误，但你可以通过表现出并不是每个动作都要有力，至少不会是不舒服的来赢取信任。你要考虑到一个吻有多少次被翻译成了一些本不该出现的事情的邀请函，所以要让她来引导你而不是假装你已经熟悉了一幅以前从没见过的地图。
Be aware of how soft a woman’s lips are — how much respect and care they should be treated with, and how often they are handled with all the grace and skill of bull in a china shop. Let her push into you, melt forward in such a way that she is an active participant, and not an innocent bystander. Let her show that she trusts you, that she wants you, that she is comfortable and happy where she is.
你要意识到一个女人的唇有多么的柔软——她们应当被给予多少尊敬和呵护，她们多久打理一次笨拙的自己的优雅和技巧。让她来推动你的吻，并以她是一位活跃的参与者而不是一位天真的旁观者的方式来融化在吻中。让她表现出对你的信任、需要还有她对自己所处位置的舒适和开心。
Allow every move, every hand on the nape of the neck or the small of the back, to be soft and patient — there is no need to prove aggression, or assert dominance. Make yourself felt in a whisper instead of a scream, leaving your movements subtle and implied. Know that there will be time for every color on the spectrum of emotion, that there will be a time for animal urgency, but let that not be your introduction. Say in your movements that you are present, instead of insisting that you are occupying her space. Let your lips and tongues be in a light dance, instead of a glorified fight.
容许颈部和腰背部上每个动作和手的划过是轻柔不急躁的——无需显示出攻击性和支配性。要让自己感觉是环绕在私语中而不是尖叫声中，同时使你的动作留下微妙和充满暗示的感觉。要知道会有时间展现情感光谱上的每种颜色，会有时间表达动物那富有的那种冲动，但不要让这些成为你的自我介绍。用你的行动告诉她你是当下，而非坚持要占据她时间的某物。让你的唇和舌跳起轻快的舞蹈。而非充满荣耀的战斗。
Listen to her. If she pulls away, allow her. Understand that, as much as the near-chaste simplicity of a kiss has been downplayed in a society which values sex above all else, it is still incredibly important. In a single kiss, you can tell a girl that she’s beautiful, in much more profound ways than the physical. You can tell her that you are patient with her, and that you want to let her lead. You can tell her that you want her, but that your desire doesn’t override your respect for her. You can communicate every difficult-to-articulate sentiment that you’ve ever felt towards her — but you must do it patiently. In listening to her body and allowing her to respond, you can become fluent in a language you only recently discovered existed. In kissing her forehead lightly while she lays her head on your chest, you can say, “You are safe here. You are loved and protected.” In kissing her collarbone, you can tell her how exquisite you find her body, how delicate and meaningful her curves. It is complex, to be sure, but worth an investment in learning. Because there is truly nothing you cannot express, if you are willing to say it softly.
通过聆听她肢体的语言，并容许她作回应，你可以变得更流畅地理解最近才发现的一种确实存在的语言。当她依偎在你怀里，你轻轻亲吻她的额头，对她说，“你在这儿很安全。你在被爱着，被保护着。”你也可以通过亲吻她的锁骨来告诉她，你发现她的身体是多么的优美，她的曲线是多么的精美、富有韵味。这的确很复杂，但确实值得学习。因为只要你愿意温柔地说出来，没有什么是不能表达的。
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