深圳大学 赖小琪
时常被生活的一些东西感动着，时常觉得生命是如此的伟大与美好。昨天清晨，我在文科楼的饭堂里吃着早餐，突然被眼前的一幕感动得心潮澎湃。一个母亲推着坐在轮椅上的女儿走过饭堂，然后去打了两份早餐，和女儿一起吃。那个母亲大概四十多岁，应该是深大的老师。她的女儿大概十三岁左右，可能是由于意外事故而导致双腿残废，目前只能终日坐在轮椅上。母亲一边吃早餐一边和她的女儿亲切地聊着天，脸上时不时浮现出满意快乐的笑容。
I am often touched by something in life and feel that life is so great and glorious. Yesterday morning, I was having breakfast in our school canteen. All of sudden, I was deeply moved by a scene that a mother was pushing a wheelchair in which sat her daughter into the canteen. She bought breakfast and enjoyed it with her daughter. The mother was over 40 years old and supposed to be a teacher in my school, while her daughter was about 13 years old. The girl became handicapped in two legs and had to sit in the wheelchair all the time. He mother was having a pleasant chat with her, smiles blooming in her face.
看到这一幕，我的心情无比的复杂。惊讶，感动，怜悯…...千百种无以名状的情感夹杂交织在我的心里。有一句耳熟能详的话突然间鸣在我的脑际：只有失去了才懂得珍惜。我们早就理解这句话的意思，然而没有多少个人践行这句话的内涵。看着坐在轮椅上的那位女孩，看着她毫无感觉的双腿，再看看自己，再看看周围的人，大家都四肢健全，我不敢想像要是我们也像她那样，生命会变成哪一种颜色。当我们可以自由地活动四肢，想去哪里就去哪里，想做什么就做什么，我们丝毫不觉得这其实是上苍给予我们最大的福气。相反，我们当这一切都是理所当然的。当恩赐被理解成了理所当然，那么我们的欲望就会无限的膨胀，我们的挫败感就会越来越强，我们失去的也会越来越多。在生活中，我们时常遇到一点挫折便心灰意冷，觉得难以越过，然而很少人会想到：不管我们遇到了什么事情，只要我们还有健康的身体，这就是一种福气。活着就是希望。
Seeing this, I felt complicated in heart. Surprise, affection and sympathy…… all sorts of feelings were crushing each other in my heart. A widely known sentence struck my mind that only when you lose something will you know to cherish it. Actually we have known its meaning, but few will practise it in our lives. Seeing the little girl in the wheelchair and her numb legs, and then looking back at myself and people around in good condition, I dare not imagine what color our life would become if we lost our legs. When we can move our limbs freely and go wherever we want and do whatever we want, we do not realize it is literally the greatest blessing God bestows upon us. On the contrary, we take everything as granted. When favor is taken as granted, our desire will be expanding endlessly, our sense of frustration will become stronger and stronger and we will lose more and more. We often feel discouraged once we meet a little setback in life. We think we can barely overcome it, but few of us will come to know that whatever befalls on us, so long as we are in good shape, it is alrealy a blessing! Living is the greatest hope for us!
毕淑敏曾经说过一句让我记忆犹新的话：“你感到自己很不幸，是因为你没遭遇到更大的不幸。”比如说，我们拥有健全的四肢，并不觉得有什么值得高兴，而是为生活中的各种琐事费煞心神，然而对于轮椅上的女孩，生活中的得与失已经变得不再重要，她也没有心思去计较了，她唯一希望的，是自己可以重新站起来。当下很多人在抱怨命运不公，为什么自己这么贫穷，别人这么富有；为什么自己事业潦倒，别人如日中天；为什么自己的样子这么丑，别人长得这么美……而如果上帝对你说：“我给你一千万美元，把你变成世间最美的人，让你成为世界一流企业的总裁，但是我把你的腿换给那位轮椅上的小女孩，你愿意吗？”我想你肯定不愿意！暂且不说大家都处在风华正茂的年代，就算你知道自己过几年就会两腿一伸，化为尘土，你也不愿意拿双腿来换那些财富与荣誉。当你想到“站起来”都成为一种奢侈时，你就会发现命运给予了你多大的眷顾！你就不会再抱怨自己缺东少西，你就不会再抱怨自己生不逢时。
Bi Shumin, a famous writer once said a typical sentence that is still deeply rooted in my mind: you feel unfortunate because you did not suffer a greater misfortune. For example, when you have healthy limbs, you do not treat it as something happy. Instead, you bother to deal with all trivials and feel metally tough. But to a girl sitting in the wheelchair, all gains and losses become dim to her. What she only wishes is to stand up again. Nowadays, many people are groaning about the unjustice of destiny by questioning why they are poor while others rich, why they are in poor career while others rich and why they are ugly while others beautiful……But if one day God says to you, “I will give you ten million dollars, the greatest beauty in the world and a position of CEO for a prominent enterprise on the condition that you give your legs to the girl. Do you want to make the deal?” I think you will reject the deal on the spot. Even though you could count the years to live, you were not willing to exchange your legs for wealth and status, not to mention that you are still in your prime time. When you realize “standing up” becomes a luxury, you will find how much blessing and favor God has bestowed upon you! And you will never complain about your present life!
所以，我无法理解那些轻生的人。有一句话说得好：“当你连死都不怕时，你还怕什么？”自杀不仅不能解决所有的问题，反而会令生者痛不欲生。自杀的人，某种程度上说，是最自私的人。他把自己解脱了，却把所有的痛苦留给别人。所以，在我看来，那位轮椅上的小女孩是最坚强的，她没有因为生活中的挫折而轻生，而是顽强地活下来，和命运抗争。我想她的母亲也会感到很欣慰。一个人要尽孝，首先要珍爱自己，健康活着，方能让父母怡养天年。否则如果你身体羸弱，或者终日意志消沉，哪怕你给父母再多钱，他们也不会得到真正的快乐。
Therefore, I cannot understand those who commit suicide. There is a good saying that “when you do not fear death, what else do you fear?” suicide can solve nothing but leaves more pain to the alive. Suicides, to some extent, are the most selfish people who set themselves free but leave all agony to others. Hence, to my mind, the girl in the wheelchair is the strongest, for she did not abandon life due to the great setback but struggles to live, fighting with her fate. I think her mother must feel comforted considerably. If you want to practise filial piety, first of all you should cherish yourself and keep your body in good health. Only by then can you make your parents live happily. Otherwise, if you are weak and often fall sick physically or mentally, no matter how much money you give your parents, they will not feel truly happy.
所以，我想我们不用妒忌任何人，因为我们的存在本来就是一种骄傲。我们老爱和别人比较，比较谁的生活更好，谁长得更美，谁的地位更高。比较本身没错，通过比较我们才能有更充足的动力去追求我们的理想。然而当比较没有转化为动力，却转化为妒忌和怨天尤人时，这其实是一剂毒药，在不经意间就会让你误入歧途，痛失所有。我们的比较，很多时候是比错了方向。最后，我想引用贾平凹曾在《读者》的一篇散文里的一句话来结束全文：“我们应该在物质上和比我们穷的人比，在精神上和比我们富的人比，这样我们才会寻找到真正的幸福。”
Hence, we do not need to envy any other person, for our existence is actually a pride! We tend to compare ourselves with others in life, appearance and status. Comparison is right, through which we can be fueled enough to pursue our dream. But when it turns into no power but jealousy and complaints, it is indeed a poison, which will mislead you in the wrong way and make you lose all. Our comparison often goes in a wrong direction. Finally, I would like to quote a sentence written by a famous writer, Jia Ping’ao to conclude the whole article: we should compare with those poorer than us in material life, but with those richer than us in spiritual life. Then we can seek our real happiness! |
